Q:How do you justify her affairs with married men? Did she ever acknowledge that these actions might have hurt other people, specifically the spouses/significant others of these men? It's wonderful to live without regrets, as she seemed to, but from what I've read she didn't seem to care how her actions affected others, as long as she was satisfied.
No, she really wasn’t like how you are describing her. She really didn’t have that many affairs with married men. The only thing that I can fully justify her actions are that she was in many movies and so she met many men. If you had to have a romance on screen with them it might be difficult to separate the script from real life. Maybe she fell for them because she co-starred with many attractive men. I think that she obviously must have not meant to do any harm to anyone in general. She didn’t live without regrets. I think she wished she had a child of her own. Even though through her words she may have sounded like she had a full life, I believe her later years must have been lonely for anyone, especially someone who was constantly adored and was in constant attention when she was at the top in her career. She did care for people she loved. She was a very generous lady and maybe she didn’t realize what she was doing would cause anyone any distress. All I can say is Ava was her own woman, and she did have her own issues, but so does everyone else. I can’t imagine there not being another actress from her time that didn’t occasionally have an affair with a leading man of theirs. It’s a very practical thought that one would have a hard time not falling for a charismatic leading man like Ava did. Not that I think it’s justifiable, but she may not have realized at the moment who she may be hurting.
Thank you for the question :)
These photographs were taken at the Waldorf-Astoria Hotel in New York, May 11, 1969, during the Free Southern Dinner Theater, a fund-raiser to “make theater available, useful, and relevant to the lives of the people in poor, black communities of the rural and urban South.” Top Left, Ava with Duke Ellington and her dear friend Lena Horne; Top Right, with event Co-Chairman Bill Cosby; Bottom, with Brock Peters and close friend Gregory Peck (both starred in To Kill a Mockingbird).
I especially remember a record heat day in Los Angeles when somebody said, “Okay, let’s get somebody who’s got good legs and knockers and put her in a bathing suit on top of this enormous block of ice.” And the block of ice they got really was enormous; it must have weighed a ton. A huge crane was needed to get it into position outside the Picture Gallery. And who was chosen for the honor? Ava G. I wore a red candy-striped bathing suit, and they heaved me up to the top. I held an ice cream cone and smiled happily as they turned on a fan so my hair blew in the wind as my bottom froze. It made all the newspapers. No one ever called it an intellectual profession. - Ava Gardner